Mens Mental Health

In some societies, there is an expectation for men to be strong and tough.

This view can discourage emotional expression and make vulnerability seem like weakness. As a result, men may fear admitting or discussing their challenges. This adds to the stigma and discrimination around mental health.

Men might also stay clear of support because they often don’t see their mental health issues. For a long time, mental health was a taboo subject.

People rarely discussed it, and they did not understand it well. Only in the past 70 years have attitudes begun to change. Societies now accept that men can face mental health issues too. Now we see that some generations find it hard to express themselves or know where to go for help. This adds to the culture of silence that continues to affect future generations.

Men in the UK often avoid seeking help for mental health issues. They worry about being a burden to others. Talking about their feelings can feel like a heavy load.

They hesitate to share with friends, family, or professionals. So, they may keep their emotions to themselves. Over time, this can lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. Sadly, it can also lead to suicidal thoughts.

Family expectations, cultures, and communities can hinder men’s mental health. Some men worry about judgement if they seek help.

They often feel pressure from loved ones who say “tough it out.” They also face a culture that discourages being vulnerable. This pressure can make it even more embarrassing to seek the support they need.

It takes real courage to admit you're struggling, especially in a culture that expects a lot from men. So, rather than being a sign of weakness, this step shows true strength and bravery.

Burying your emotions can harm your mental health. That’s why it’s vital to challenge society’s expectations and stigmas. Doing so allows you to get the help you deserve.

Opening up can be painful at first, but each step becomes lighter and easier. It’s not true that discussing self-harm or suicide makes things worse long-term. In fact, talking often leads to a healthier, happier future.

Before joining Talking Therapies, what were your views on mental health and therapy? Share your thoughts!

Before, I thought you just called your doctor for antidepressants, and that was it. I didn’t know what help was out there or if it would suit me. I found the service on the NHS app but didn’t realise there was one separate from my GP practice. I always believed I had to go through my doctor for any mental health issues. Knowing that I could apply directly was a gamechanger. I didn’t have to explain everything to my GP. Instead, I could go to a service that focuses on mental health and understands what I was facing. I sought help at my lowest point. There was a lot of shame in asking for help. As a man, I felt pressure to be strong and often struggled longer than needed.

Please describe your perceptions of the referral and assessment process

I self-referred and completed a self-assessment form. Some parts were tough because they made me think about my feelings. Not everything on the form applies to everyone. After finishing the form, I had a phone call to discuss it. I could then choose a therapy that suited my needs.

Please describe your perceptions of the therapy you have completed

Before therapy began, I felt worried and uneasy. I feared being judged. However, the therapist's professionalism stood out. They explained the process and what therapy involved. This helped me build trust and feel reassured. I was gently guided into therapy. Trust is key, as is knowing you won't be judged.

Identifying goals and having session limits helped define the process. Talking about my experiences allowed me to see things differently. I realised that old trauma doesn't define who I am now. This has helped me change my relationship with the past and challenge self-blame. It was crucial for me to recognise my depression. I believe my life wouldn’t have changed without therapy.

What have you found helpful?

It was important to have a structured process. I could recognise my patterns and normalise my experiences. I've developed new ways to manage situations, gaining tools for everyday challenges. New methods can feel ‘clunky’ at first, but they become more natural with practice. Therapy has changed my life. It has improved my relationships with family and how I interact with others. I enjoy life more and have more energy. I’m kinder to myself and treat myself better.

What would you improve about the service?

I would focus on raising awareness of the service. This could include posters in GP surgeries. It’s also important to consider what people can access while on the waiting list.

Would you recommend the service? What would you tell a male client thinking about using it?

Yes, I recommend the service. My advice is not to wait until you feel overwhelmed or think about harming yourself. What often holds you back is the fear of discussing mental health. Don't be ashamed to ask for help. Be ready for the long journey ahead, as change take time. It's important to reflect between sessions. It will need effort, and you need to be committed.

Give the therapy a go!

• Staying active: Even a light walk can boost feel-good endorphins. This helps improve your mental and physical well-being.
• Spending time in nature: The great outdoors can boost our mood and improve mental health over time.
• Eating a well-balanced diet: Fruit, vegetables, and a healthy mix of other foods can boost our energy and positivity each day.
• Avoiding Drugs and Alcohol: Cutting these substances from your life can improve your mental health. It also helps prevent harmful coping habits.
• Talking to people you trust can help a lot. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or mental health professional, sharing your feelings can lift a heavy burden.
• Contacting us here at South Tyneside Talking Therapies